I also work with DSLRs cameras, and my experience has been very good with dark scaling, meaning that if the master dark is built to match lights (temp and duration), then the scaling is very near 1 (to 2 or 3 digits). In fact, I always optimize the master dark, even when there is perfect match, as a verification that the master dark was correctly built.
There are a couple of thing I do to get to these results. First, I build a very accurate master bias, using 200 frames, and sometimes Carlos's superbias script. Then, I build a master dark without calibrating each dark frame (ie, without subtracting the master bias). Finally, during light calibration, I check "optimize" and "calibrate" master dark, use the whole frame to estimate the scale factor (by entering zero in the corresponding dialog), and choose "Force CFA" (I use monochrome CFA format in all my frames). With this workflow I get very consistent results.
Hope it helps.
Ignacio