Rodd,
In situations like you describe, if you are not willing to go the extra step suggested by Rob, then the only real option is to try and align the histograms of the three color channels. Easiest way to do that is to use Histogram Transform. What you need to achieve, since you are looking to balance the background, is to make sure that the left/dark side of the three color channels are aligned. If they are not, you can tweak each color by selecting it and making small adjustments until they are balanced on the left side. That should give you an even background and help balance the image generally but there are no guarantees that this is the right answer when you are dealing with heavy and pervasive nebulosity. What is does do is make sure that what little true background may be available in the niches is balanced.
Another option, though a bit more heavy handed, is to use Linear Fit before combining the color stacks and simply force all three stacks onto the same curve, then combine them.
At the end of the day, you are going to have to eyeball it, seeing if what you end up with makes sense. No program can give you a perfectly balanced background where there is no background to work with in the first instance.
Best,
Jim